Deciding how to care for an ageing parent is deeply personal—and often emotional. In New Zealand, more families are choosing home care over moving into retirement villages. But why?
For many, the decision comes down to one thing: what feels right for their loved one.
Here, we share real-world stories from families across Aotearoa who chose home care—and the outcomes that followed. If you’re weighing up options, their journeys might help clarify yours.
(Names have been changed for privacy. All stories reflect real client experiences.)
Margaret, 82 – Staying in Her Garden in Nelson
Margaret has lived in the same home for over 40 years. Her garden is her pride and joy. When her adult children suggested a retirement village, she wasn’t ready to leave her lemon trees or the view from her kitchen window.
Instead, they arranged weekly home visits to help with shopping, meal prep, and mobility support.
Why they chose home care:
- Margaret wanted to stay where she felt secure.
- The family could start small and scale care if needed.
- Home Carers found a carer who also loved gardening—instant connection!
“I didn’t want to start again. I just needed a little help so I could keep living the life I love.” – Margaret
Dave, 76 – Recovering at Home in Hamilton
After heart surgery, Dave needed support with daily tasks and medication reminders. His family assumed he’d need to move into assisted living, but the cost and disruption worried them.
Instead, they opted for post-operative home care, where carers checked in daily and helped him get back on his feet.
Why they chose home care over retirement villages:
- Avoided the stress of moving during recovery
- Lower cost compared to village care with similar support
- Dave regained independence in a familiar environment
“We thought we’d need a retirement unit, but home care gave Dad everything he needed—without leaving home.” – Angela, Dave’s daughter
Helen, 79 – Early Dementia Support in Auckland
Helen was diagnosed with early-stage dementia. Her children wanted to act quickly—but Helen was still independent and didn’t want to be “put in a home.”
Home Carers designed a custom care plan that included daily wellness checks, companionship, and gentle cognitive stimulation.
Why they chose home care:
- Allowed Helen to maintain routine and independence
- Reduced anxiety through one-on-one support
- Kept the family involved in daily care decisions
“It wasn’t about choosing the cheapest or flashiest option. It was about keeping Mum connected to her life.” – James, Helen’s son
The Common Thread: Care That Fits the Person, Not Just the Problem
While retirement villages can be a great fit for some, these families all had one thing in common:
They wanted care that adapted to the person—not the other way around.
Home care provided:
- Comfort and continuity
- Personalised support
- Flexibility to change over time
- A way to remain close to family and community
Thinking About Your Own Family?
You don’t have to make this decision alone. At Home Carers, we work alongside families across New Zealand to build care plans that evolve with your loved one’s needs—whether it’s two hours a week or 24-hour support.
We take pride in matching carers not just based on experience, but personality, interests, and values.
Learn how we personalise every care plan →www.homecarers.co.nz
Book a free consultation to talk it through—no pressure.
